What is your worst quality?
I had to think hard on this to find a single flaw. And no that does not mean that I have none but that I have so many. Well things that I see as flaws, other people might see them as part of daily living or the signs of past experiences.
I do not like showing flaws. I guess I equate them with weakness. To show weakness is to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable is to be a victim. And that is one thing I will never be again.
So among the throng of my flaws I have, I thought of one that had external qualification. In this instance it was my hubby who completely lost patience with me and let me know. I guess other people were too polite.
The flaw is that I interrupt when other people are talking. It is like I have jumped ahead and think they have. Or I am just so excited to have someone to talk to I can not contain my words. Or I just fail to really listen to the other person and that makes it easy to butt in. It could be I am just rude or think I am smarter than everyone else (I hope it is not these two – as I try very hard not to offend and feel dumber than most people).
I have been working on it, a variety of techniques really. I consciously keep my mouth closed and my mind. So if a thought escapes one it can not escape the other (I hope there is no obvious visual accompaniment to this that the other person can see). I practice with hubby, he creates situations where I might find it easy to do – like he waits an age before words to trick me into thinking that he had finished what he was saying.
I have memory prompts like I try to remember it is okay to think something and if I forget it then it was not meant to be said. Also that what I was going to say is not as important as respecting the person I am listening to. And the most effective: If I listen and take my turn this rare gift of conversation can stretch out longer, than my interrupting and driving them away.
I know I need more practice
I will get there but
sometimes, it seems there are more flaws
than anything else of me